The Reminder

Its 11 p.m.

 I did it again.

 I didn’t want to.  I didn’t intend to.

I didn’t see it coming

I don’t know if I should have or not

But I did it

I lost my shit last night

Lost my temper, mind, reasoning, religion

Whatever you want to call it- I lost it

Lost it right into the lap of my youngest, Forrest.

And not in a funny – “oh my will eventually make a great sitcom episode” way.

No .

In the “What the hell am I doing?”

And “God please repair the heart I have broken”

Kind of way

That messed up.

The one ray of light in the whole dysfunctional whirlwind was I didn’t look past the hurt on her face-

It was there : raw , red and my doing.

Thank God it became my undoing.

I watched internal pain produce a desperate look and it floored me –

it made me to say to myself   “You incredible ass, what are you doing”

And my blood pressure was still up,

 and my anger was still there (stupid as it was) 

and my selfishness still gripped me –

but my spirit sank like a lead weight.

Like a millstone hung around my neck was that weight and it hurt.

I wanted to crawl in the hole that I belonged in.

And I would have taken a life of despair in exchange for her healing.

I wish I could have made the trade.

But it doesn’t work that way.

We cannot undo

We can only redo

The next moment

The next time

And

The next choice

I sent her upstairs

Afraid to have us in the same room

Ashamed to let her see the monster I was

It’s 11:05

5 minutes-

5 foolish, reckless, damaging minutes

Heated, 0 to 1,000 in 30 seconds or less-

 the moments have now past

And I can’t get them back

No amount of grieving can do that- and trust me I’ve tested the theory

Now at this point I have a tendency to think the thoughts of the damned:

“What a lousy mother you are”

“You are a freak”
“Seriously this is a request, not cancer”

“Don’t you love your child?”

“You always do this”

“Spare her please- she would be better off without you”

The decent to the pit is a rapid one

When you let your conviction turn  to condemnation.

And that is where I went……fast.

But then I realized some facts:

Yes I acted foolish

Yes my reaction was hurtful

And then

 I saw what it was doing

And

I stopped.

I heard the conviction.

I listened.

And actually I listened much earlier than the last time I lost it.

I fell down on my knees asking forgiveness

 and asking twice over that God would fill her with His truths and not my lies.

That He would comfort her and let her know how wildly important and loved she is.

I pulled a small amount of myself together and humbly walked the stairs , knowing what had to be done .

I sought and received her forgiveness.

I attempted to be back in her  good graces.

That is going to take longer.

I understand that.

 NO one wants to snuggle up with the dog that just bit you.

I left her room and attempted to sleep.

I didn’t. The longer I lay there the madder I got.

At myself,

at my husband (honestly he is sleeping while I’m sniveling in the dark)

And even at God

“Why Lord?  Why does this keep happening?

What is wrong with me?

Why won’t you just immerse me in your Holy Spirit and make me like so many I see; happy walking in faith with you?”

And I kept on descending into the

Bowels of unhealthy thinking with:

“Yes I’m envious of other’s faith  . They have a seamlessly, effortless, wonderful, doubtless relationship with you .”

“Why can’t you just zap me into that?”

I am being brutally honest here

I actually said that

And then in the background

I am pretty sure I heard a Whaambulance.

Finally I shut up enough and did a few deep breaths.

I then heard that still yet commanding voice

“You want to hear from me?   Then meet me.”

You want to know what I think?  Then seek me”

O-U-C-H

“You want to know if I forgive you?”

“Yes Yes Lord I wan’t to know. How can I be forgiven?”

And I began my argument

“Shouldn’t I have a millstone around my neck?”  Luke 17:2

“Doesn’t her angel see your very face in heaven? “  Matthew 18:10

“Won’t I have to give account of every careless word spoken and won’t I be guilty? “Matthew 12:36

I had asked and God was faithful to answer:

“Your answer is not going to be here in the dark writhing in your bed”

“Move , get up”

I roll out of bed and walk like a hunchback to the couch. I grab my Bible,  tears are streaming down my face. I’m a total snot bubble and pretty sure I have created a new breathing pattern for myself.

 It is now 2 a.m.

I flop like the leader of the pity party that I am on the cushions.

 “Fine,  fine”  I think , “I’m just going to randomly open up my Bible, roulette style, and see what I get’

It wasn’t thought in hope.

It sure wasn’t spoken in expectation.

I half way thought that I would open up to a passage

about a possessed woman or a the Philistine foreskin story

or something that I can make hide nor hare out of.

At this point it would have done me good to remember that God can hear me even if I’m just thinking.

So I whip open my Bible and glare at it with blurred vision

And this is what I read:

²¹ “Remember these things, Jacob,
    for you, Israel, are my servant.
I have made you, you are my servant;
    Israel, I will not forget you.
²² I have swept away your offenses like a cloud,
    your sins like the morning mist.
Return to me,
    for I have redeemed you.”

I thought I had lost it

But I was wrong

You can obviously go lower

You can be lower than prostrate

I got that low  as I was overwhelmed by God’s incredible Mercy

I wouldn’t forgive myself but

He reminded me that He didn’t need my permission  in order for

His forgiveness to be granted.

And all He wanted was to

 remind me –

Remember these things

What things? 

The scripture above the remember scripture

speaks about idolatry and states this:

“Such a person feeds on ashes; a deluded heart misleads him;
    he cannot save himself, or say,
    “Is not this thing in my right hand a lie?”

I was feeding on ashes, convincing myself

that my self loathing accomplished something.

That gripping the “don’t forgive myself card” was righteous

What it was is the thing in my hand that was a lie

Then He reminded me I was His

“for you, Israel, are my servant”

His servant- one He choose to carry out His will

And that He made me.

“I have made you, you are my servant”

He choose me.

He didn’t get stuck with me in some cosmic Saint Sinner League draft

or acquire me by default with a trade for Mother Teresa .

No. He decided to make me and then put me on His team.

Then He reminds me in the middle of my “me” mess

That He has not forgotten me.

“Israel, I will not forget you.”

My rambling about not being this way or that

or having what I see in others is a group of poop .

He has not forgotten me for one moment

And He proves it with God  action-

Demonstrative Love

^22” I have swept away your offenses like a cloud,
    your sins like the morning mist”

He sweeps away my offenses like a cloud

Like a whispy  frail gas like as if it is  nothing

My sins like the morning mist

Evaporated, faded into invisibility

NOT that the offense was nothing - no it was something and it has consequences.

But it has NO POWER OVER HIM

HE SWEPS IT AWAY

A HOLY SHOO and it is gone before His presence.

At this point if I were God I would be like

“Ok I done dealt with your crud now please go slither away somewhere and try to keep a low profile”

But God is not like me

His thoughts are not my thoughts (PRAISE JESUS)

And His ways are not my ways

He goes on :

“Return to me,”

I’m like “What?  You want me to come where You are?   You almighty God want me to be hanging out with you?”

“Umm do you not remember the past couple of hours?

The pain I caused,

the regrets I have ,

the snot I have produced, the pity party I held in my own honor?”

And it’s at his point that He reminds me that

All of that is immaterial to WHAT HE WANTS.

He is not bound by me

or my thinking or  my behavior.

Because HE WANTS ME  - HE CAN  HAVE ME.

 Because of how HE handles sin, death and the enemy, who just a few hours ago had all my attention.

Because the biggest reminder of all

 HE saves for last:

“for I have redeemed you.”

He says “ I HAVE.”

And so it is.

And because of that my next moment can be  new moment 

A merciful moment,

 a healing moment.

And Forrest and I can share that moment together in the arms of the only unfailing parent there ever is.

And together we can learn that

  Grace is the only thing that ever makes a way.

I have been encouraged by a number of great strong women one who has encouraged me by reminding me that God loved me first and that anything synonymous with Israel, Jacob, His servant, His Bride is in reference to His redeemed.

 I am one such redeemed and so are you.

So as you read scripture I would encourage you to rightful by His Blood place your own name in scripture where the redeemed are.

For instance the above passage could be an encouragement to you as such:

²¹ “Remember these things, your name,
    for you, your name, are my servant.
I have made you, you are my servant;
    Your name I will not forget you.

²² I have swept away your offenses like a cloud,
    your sins like the morning mist.
Return to me,
    for I have redeemed you.” Your name

And I pray today you are reminded of His great love

Before you lose it

If you lose it

Or after you’ve lost it

Because at every stage

You have never been lost

You are always the Redeemed.